Losing Well-being means losing happiness and balance, feeling intense jealousy toward the success of others, experiencing rapid discouragement, being unable to build a peaceful marital relationship, being unable to form warm social relationships, struggling continuously at work, and suffering from depression, which is a psychological illness that grows more prevalent day after day. There is no doubt that families play the primary role in raising individuals who do or do not possess Well-being and Emotional Stability. And this unbalanced child may be the top of his class, or he may be at the bottom. A school grade is not a measure of Well-being, as some people believe. So what is the most widespread cause found in families that strive for distinguished parenting, who believe they are doing something good for their children, while this very method leads to the loss of Well-being and exposes children to real suffering in the future, with most parents completely unaware of the mistake? What Is This Harmful Method? In this article I will discuss an approach that many fathers and mothers follow, believing it will lead to distinguished parenting, while in reality it destroys their children's Well-being and Self-esteem. It is the approach of trying to improve behavior through exaggerated praise and harsh negative criticism for mistakes. Exposing a child to harsh negative criticism when he makes a mistake, whether through direct words or a cutting look, and praising him excessively when he performs a desirable behavior, believing this will shape him into what we want, is one of the primary reasons our children lose their balance and Well-being, as studies indicate. It may even lead to personality disorders that do not appear until after the age of eighteen. Unfortunately, this approach of harsh criticism and exaggerated praise is widespread in many families. It makes a person captive to the approval of others, intensely sensitive to the success of those around him, and quickly discouraged when he makes a mistake. What Is the Alternative? First: Separate the behavior from the person. Do not say "You are selfish." Say instead "This behavior shows selfishness." Second: Praise the effort and intention, not only the outcome. If he made a sincere effort but did not succeed, say "I liked your attempt and how seriously you approached it." Third: Teach him how to evaluate his own behavior rather than waiting for your constant approval. For example, ask him "What do you think of what you did?" With this approach, we build within him a living conscience capable of self-evaluation. We free him from unhealthy dependence on the approval of others, and we make his Self-confidence come from within, not from applause or humiliation. Well-being is not built with words. It is built through the daily way we treat our children.